[[I apologize in advance for the vibes that may come off from this post.]]
The truth is, I am SO ANNOYED with the number of people in my life claiming to be “dead inside.”
“My heart is cold,”
“I died years ago,”
“There's no fixing me, I'm already dead.”
THIS is how you're going to spend your life?
THIS is what you're going to declare over yourself?
STOP being such a f*cking baby.
(Sorry for the language, mom, there's no better adjective for this topic).
These are the same people asking, “Why are you so sweet?” or
“How are you filled with rainbows and unicorns all the time?”
The truth is, I come off as sweet because that's how I want to present myself to the world.
Life IS hard for everyone.
It's a challenge.
We're meant to learn lessons in order to grow.
I have just as many bad days as you. I have lost just as many people to cancer and disease, have just as much debt, anxiety, worries, plain old bad stuff that happens to me too.
Life is what you make of it.
You create your own reality.
If you want to be dead inside and cut your precious time on this beautiful earth short (it's already short enough) then by all means go on and continue your sad, depressing, “woe-is-me,” negativity, feeding off of your sick-and-tired self.
You can get back on that horse (or bike) and make the decision to change your life for the better.
Be a warrior. Be strong. Be bold. Be courageous.
Release your emotions and open up your heart.
Recognize the potential within yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Make it about you.
(There are people out there willing to help).
Read a book.
Follow an uplifting blog.
Get a hobby.
Color in a coloring book.
Spend time outside in nature.
Get enough sleep.
Let go of all the negative things that happened in your past.
Forgive those that hurt you.
Stop worrying about tomorrow...
There's no need to be anxious for tomorrow or the next day.
Take life a day at a time.
Learn who you are.
Go back to your childhood.
Remember your roots.
Take control of your life.
Allow your heart to grow.
For the love of all things, please stop declaring “death” over your soul.
“Happiness comes from contentment.”
If you are unhappy, the best thing you can do is analyze yourself:
Who you are versus who you intend to be.
What you have versus what you need.
Where you are now versus where you would like to be.
Going back a few years to a darker point in my life, when I was apt to severe anxiety and panic attacks, doubt and depression and an overall state of mental and emotional exhaustion, I knew something had to change. This wasn't me. I am not these negative attributes that one could easily use to describe me. As much as I let this negativity take over the greater portion of my well-being, there was still something deep inside screaming to be released. The better part of me, the self, the consciousness, the soul, the absolute most true version of me, hidden and pushed aside through spiritual neglect, taken over by the cares and worries of every day life.
There came a point when I realized I needed to have a heart to heart with myself to find the root of my unhappiness. I actually began to write a list of “pros” and “cons” in my life. This list included things like being with my wonderful boyfriend to living hundreds of miles from my family; having amazing and supportive friends to having a job that was constantly bringing me down. I proceeded to go through all areas of my life, writing both what made me happy versus what was negatively impacting my life. After writing this list, I held onto it for a good few weeks, referring to it every so often before finally deciding what I was going to do about it.
During these weeks, (because the universe works in mysterious ways), a friend of mine invited me to attend a guided meditation at the local Buddhist meditation center down the street. Being raised in the Christian church, I knew meditation would bring a sense of calm and serenity, but it wasn't until years after leaving the church did I make the correlation between God, the Universe, and my Inner-Self as one in the same. What an amazing experience this guided meditation was, sitting in absolute silence, breathing deep and allowing my mind to finally be still and quiet. I enjoyed the experience so much that I decided to return the following week, shortly thereafter making the decision to buy my first yoga mat and yoga DVD geared toward stress relief. Right from the start of my practice, I learned how emotionally intense and healing yoga and meditation can be.
Getting back to my list, it was time to begin eliminating some of the negative aspects of my life. First, I had to realize that not everything could be changed easily or right away. For example, living hundreds of miles from my immediate family, while it made me unhappy, was something that I had to learn to accept by reassuring myself that I am still loved by them no matter the distance and that if needed, they will be there for me anytime I call. What I needed to do was focus on the areas that I could change. For me, the biggest cause of my unhappiness was in my work situation. I realized that I was meant to do more, meant to do something that would make a bigger difference in the lives of others, and that the stress and anxiety caused from this particular job was absolutely holding me back from being the best version of myself that I could be. It was time to let go, to move on and continue on this journey of happiness through life.
After talking with my at-the-time boyfriend (and now amazing husband), the decision to leave my job made the most sense. He saw the absolute worst of my anxiety and knew where the bulk of it stemmed from, and thankfully supported my decision to move on. After following through and leaving my work situation, a huge sense of relief came over me. I knew this was the start of my healing journey and I still had a long way to go. However, sometimes the first steps toward change are the most difficult and I had finally taken mine. From that point on, my life became a whirlwind of change. There have been ups and downs, lessons to be learned, but where I am now and who I intend to be are becoming closer and closer with each day, as I continue to grow stronger mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.
If you are going through a severe bout of unhappiness, I would absolutely recommend analyzing your life, making yourself a list to find any negative aspects that you may be able to change, and practicing meditation and/or yoga to calm and strengthen your heart and mind. You were put on this earth with so much potential and your unhappiness may just be your inner-self screaming to you that you need to change something in order to get back on track with your journey, to live the life you are meant to love.
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Sometimes the simplest act of "letting it be" seems the hardest. Our culture has led us to a place of fast-paced existence, wanting instant results and pushing ourselves to the point of stress to get there. If we change our perspective and realize that all we need will be revealed to us once we slow down and enjoy the present moment, we will all be at ease and have peace. Take time out of your hectic, busy life to sit silently and be thankful for the good that currently exists in your life. 💜🌿
I can't even count the amount of times I have had this internal conversation with myself over the years. We all have different struggles, we have all hit that place of "rock bottom" at one point or another, we have all had times in our lives when we're ready to give up. The truth is, we can either let them defeat us or use them to make us stronger.
Remember to breathe and tell yourself everything will be okay. Learn from your mistakes. There are amazing results when you overcome negativity through positive thoughts. You WILL make it! 💛
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